Even though I knew it was the best thing for me, for us, because heck, he was miserable as well, I missed our home in Los Angeles. I missed my routine. I couldn’t see how I was going to be able to get past the feeling of deep loss. I was certain that I would go to my grave confused, and dis-regulated, feeling like a complete fuck-up in the relationship department.

One of the most valuable benefits of learning to set boundaries is that instead of constantly feeling like you’re a victim of others’ actions or in-actions, you begin to see how YOU are the only person responsible and capable of meeting your own needs.