By Marla Martenson At some point, many women hear a version of this: “You’re intimidating.”“You’re intense.”“You’re a lot.” As if your self-awareness, clarity, or emotional depth is the problem. But here’s the reframe that changes everything: You’re not intimidating.You ’re just no longer available for chaos. When Chaos Was Familiar, It Felt Like Chemistry For a long time, chaos can masquerade as connection. The unpredictability. The emotional highs and lows. The push-pull th