Words Are Spells: How Negative Talk is Blocking Your Soulmate

By Marla Martenson

Have you ever noticed the word spelling contains the word spell? That’s not a coincidence.

Words are powerful. They shape energy. They hold intention.Every time you speak, you’re casting a spell—on your reality, your relationships, and even your future.

And when it comes to love, the words you use could be the very thing standing between you and your soulmate.

🧿 Your Words Are Magic—But Are You Using Them Against Yourself?

Let’s be honest: dating in today’s world can feel frustrating, exhausting, and downright discouraging.

You hop on social media or vent with your friends, and what do you hear?

“Men are trash.”“All the good ones are taken.”“Dating is a waste of time.”“I attract nothing but emotionally unavailable losers.”“There are no quality men left.”

Sound familiar?

These may feel like harmless statements or shared humor, but they’re anything but innocent. Every time you say or agree with these phrases, you’re speaking them into existence. You’re planting seeds of bitterness, frustration, and hopelessness—and those seeds grow.

🧠 Your Subconscious is Always Listening

Here’s the thing: your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between a joke and a truth. It simply absorbs what you feed it—especially when you repeat it with emotion or conviction.

So when you constantly say things like “I’m done with men” or “All men are emotionally unavailable”, your subconscious takes that in as a belief. And guess what happens next?

You begin to filter the world through that lens. You attract situations that confirm those beliefs. You overlook or repel opportunities for real connection, because your energetic field is already saying “Love doesn’t work for me.”

🧬 Manifestation Isn’t Just Vision Boards—It’s Vocabulary

You might be doing all the "right things" on the outside:

• Making a vision board

• Writing out soulmate affirmations

• Saying you’re “ready” for love

But if your everyday language is full of cynicism, resentment, or despair… it cancels out your efforts. Why? Because the Universe listens more to your vibration than your to-do list.

If you're constantly affirming what's wrong with men or dating, you're placing your focus—and your energy—on what you don’t want.

And where your focus goes, energy flows.

✨ Flip the Spell: Say What You Want, Not What You Hate

Here’s a simple but powerful shift:Speak what you desire, not what you fear.

Instead of:🗣️ “Men are pigs.”Say:🪄 “I’m attracting respectful, emotionally intelligent men who see and value me.”

Instead of:🗣️ “I’m always getting ghosted.”Say:🪄 “I’m calling in consistent, clear communication with someone who’s excited to know me.”

Instead of:🗣️ “There are no good men out there.”Say:🪄 “My person is already on his way to me. We’re aligned, and we’re close.”

Try it for one week. Watch how your energy shifts. Watch how your heart opens. Watch how the Universe begins to respond.

🧘🏽‍♀️ Your Voice Is a Portal — Use It Wisely

You are a powerful creator. Every word you speak is an instruction to your reality.

If you want real love…If you believe in soul-aligned partnership…If you're done settling, blocking, or sabotaging…

Then it’s time to speak love into your life.

It starts with the words you whisper to yourself at night. It continues with the way you speak about men—even when you’re joking. And it becomes real when your language matches your longing.

So ask yourself: Are your words aligned with the love you want?

Or are you casting spells that keep it away? Your soulmate isn’t just out there—he’s listening. Make sure your words are calling him in.

Ready to Break the Spell for Good?

If you're tired of repeating the same patterns in love…If you know your words, beliefs, and energy are keeping you stuck…And you're ready to step into deep alignment with the love you desire—

Then it’s time to Liberate yourself.

💖 Liberate is my 1:1 coaching experience designed to help you:

✔️ Rewire the subconscious patterns blocking real connection

✔️ Shift the language and beliefs that repel love

✔️ Open your heart fully — without losing yourself

✔️ Attract soul-aligned partnership from a place of power, clarity, and self-worth

This isn’t just mindset coaching. It’s energetic liberation.

🔮 Apply for 1:1 coaching inside Liberate and start calling in love with intention and magnetism. Contact me: 💌 marlamartenson@mac.com

Spots are limited — because this is deep, transformative work. If your soul is whispering “yes,” trust that nudge. Let’s create magic together.